An Aspiration: Mellow Mom

by on July 24, 2012

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Toddlers are experimental, joshing, and sometimes out of their limbs. And I can’t blame moms who are on pins and needles and sometimes becoming like a chicken with its head cut off. Well, I am almost on the same page with a tot who runs like a fugitive, leaps over our sofa and bed, throws everything that landed his palm plus a  two months old baby who screams as if I don’t feed him at all. I am almost running out of steam everyday, but thanks to “yayabell” who cover up for me and the support of my husband and my family.

My patience is being tested and I am trying hard to have patience like that of a saint. Moreover, yelling and nagging can’t pull the plug and might cause a blind alley. This is why, as early as now I am trying to compose myself with my kids and as much as possible trying to be a mellow mom.

Being a calm mom will guide your kids to a better behaviour. According to Kathleen Cranley Gallagher of Frank Porter Graham Child Development Institute, “our kids especially those under six are still learning how to listen and interprets the meaning behind our words”. Therefore avoid yelling but instead use an even tone voice when faced with battle of wills with your kid. Yelling will only scare your child and will prevent him from hearing what you are trying to say. Moreover you’ve just taught him that’s it’s okay to yell to others. So, before you felt guilty about it, try to keep your angry voice to a minimum voice and you will be surprised how your child pays attention at times you need it most.

Cranking up to be a mellow mom isn’t easy (I’m currently in the process). There are times that we can’t hold our horses but as parents, we should not forget that it is our attitude that will set the tone for our kids. Therefore, live by example and you will raise your kids with great behaviour.

 

 

 

 

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{ 11 comments… read them below or add one }

jane July 27, 2012 at 8:23 am

indeed its very hard to be a mom! i am mom of a 4 year old daughter i’ve been there done that and they will test everything that we’ve never did before!! xx

emiliana July 27, 2012 at 8:48 am

I realized that shouting at my daughter when I’m angry makes her think/mimic that it is the ‘right’ way to confront an uncompromising situation. It is hard to reprimand a child in a mild tone, but I’d have to change if it would benefit her.

tatess July 27, 2012 at 12:26 pm

Being a mom is a learning in progress. We learn from our kids everyday. We learned how to be patient, firm and more. It is a difficult yet fulfilling job

Rizza Javier July 27, 2012 at 3:17 pm

Hihihi… This is a fun read. Here! Here! to all the moms, including mine!

Yani July 28, 2012 at 2:34 pm

Someday I’ll be a mom like you and I must promise that I’ll do things that are worth emulating for my kids. Mom’s role are always challenging but a noble one.

admin July 28, 2012 at 6:25 pm

that’s good Yani! Yes its very challenging talaga!

admin July 28, 2012 at 6:27 pm

yes indeed it’s fulfilling tess!

roviedear July 29, 2012 at 1:32 am

great tip :) perfect for moms :) i dream of having one too and will bear all the stress it will take :)

Rovie, The Bargain Doll

LOURDES ESPANOL July 29, 2012 at 3:55 pm

One of the qualities that a mom can have is patience. I’m sure you’ll be more patient in the future.

Rebel Sweetheart July 29, 2012 at 4:51 pm

I can totally relate to what you’re saying.
I have a three-year-old who’s as active as an Energizer bunny, and his limitless energy and playful antics often drive me to the brink of my sanity. :)

Lovelee July 29, 2012 at 10:04 pm

I’m not a mom yet but I don know that it’s a very hard job..to be a mother. Especially if your child/children pushes you to your very limit. But once you have started your groundwork, the rest will follow and fall smoothly as if it was planned. Keep up the good work! =)

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